The purpose of this massage is not to achieve orgasm (though it can and does happen as a welcome side effect) it is more about learning to give and receive, trust, intimacy, relaxation, pleasure, bonding and enjoyment.
This technique can be used by sex therapists and specialist massage therapists to assist women to break through sexual blockages or trauma.
How to give a Tantra Yoni Massage
Step 1 – Preparation – It is recommended that the receiver empty her bladder prior to prevent any discomfort. Then have her lie on her back with pillows under knees, hips and the head to allow her to see her partner and what is happening. This massage can be done on a bed, massage table or wherever you can be relaxed and comfortable.
Step 2 – Breathing – Deep, relaxed and slow breathing by both the giver and receiver is important prior and throughout the massage. The giver should remind the receiver at any stage if she stops or starts shallow breathing this can be done by breathing loudly rather than talking.
Step 3 – The Massage – Sitting in-between the receivers legs use a high quality oil (try to avoid aromatherapy oils) warmed to body temperature under hot water begin massaging the stomach, breasts, legs and thighs using long continuous flowing and circular strokes. This allows the receiver to relax more and the giver to explore and enjoy the touch and feel. Try to maintain eye contact as much as possible to make the connection deeper.
Step 4 – Yoni Massage – Pour a little oil on the mound above the yoni so that it drips down and covers both sides. Slowly and gently is the key, begin to massage the mound and outside of the yoni. Using the thumb and index finger of the right hand, softly squeeze the outer lips one at a time and slide up and down the length. Watching each others eyes to gauge any adjustments or repetitions to increase the pleasure. Tune into the receiver watching for all visual signs which will guide you, keep talking to a minimum or preferably none at all.
Step 5 – The Crown Jewel – Using the thumb and index finger gently stroke the clitoris using clockwise and anti clockwise circles, and squeeze gently. Watch the breathing, deep long breaths. Using the middle finger with the palm facing up, softly and slowly massage, nurture, relax and explore the inside of the yoni.
Step 6 – The G-spot – This can be found by crooking the middle finger back toward the palm. Just under the pubic bone you will feel a spongy area of tissue. Watching the eyes of the receiver, vary movements, speed and pressure to maximise pleasure.
Step 7 – Total Pleasure – The finger between the pinky and middle finger can also be inserted to increase stimulation. The thumb can be used to massage the clitoris and outside the yoni. The pinky can be used to gently massage around the anus (watch for visual signs whether or not to continue with this). At the same time use the left hand to massage the abdomen and breasts using gentle flowing loving strokes. All the while looking into each others eyes and slow breathing. Emotional release can sometimes occur, be gentle and keep breathing.
Step 8 – Finishing Off – Respectfully, slowly and gently remove your hands and when she is ready hold each other in a loving embrace.