Help! My Boyfriend is a Flirt


If your boyfriend is a flirt, chances are, you knew that when you met him. What do you do to tame this habit? The answer may shock you, but the answer is nothing. You either need to learn to live with it or let him go. Chances are, if you hold onto a flirting man too tight, he will just ease on over to greener pastures, where he can be more himself.

For example, I used to be a cocktail waitress, so I have observed men on their worst behavior. Often times, it is encouraged for the waitress to take a shot with her high paying customers, and often times, I did just that. I also flirted for tips. I have seen men slip off wedding rings, turn off cell phones and put them away, and flat out lie about their girlfriends or wives, even if they are at the bar with them. I have been slipped business cards with credit cards in the hopes that I might call one of these dirtbags. I never called any of them. I knew they didn’t mean it and I am one of those strange women that actually respects the bond of a relationship.

Men and women tend to get a little stupid when alcohol is involved. I always used the bar as my safety net. Not all women are like me though. Not all women care if your man is in a relationship. Here is what I noticed in the differences of nice guys that flirt and dirtbags that want to cheat.

Some guys like to be kept on a short leash. Not the flirt. The flirt needs to be kept in check, but he needs plenty of room to roam. Many times, a nice guy flirt will flirt with the waitress or bartender because he knows it is like flirting with a stripper. His attention is nice as long as he is tipping appropriately. You have to ask yourself how this makes you feel. How do you like the fact that he is giving his money to a total stranger? A beautiful, often exotic and sexy stranger. Instead of seeing it as a major blow to your relationship. Consider it from a more healthy perspective. Your guy needs to feel sexy, and if he is going out and spending his money on that, and he has the money to spend on it, then you could consider that a version of therapy for him.

Men desire attention the same way women do. They crave for someone to tell them how sexy they are. They long for someone to lavish them with attention, even if the attention isn’t long lasting. You have to ask yourself if you are providing that, and if you aren’t, expect him to go out and find someone that will, even if just for a second.

Also, before you jump to thinking he is a complete cheater, most guys, really aren’t cheaters. In fact, men get attached to women very easily. Especially when they are in a relationship. They don’t generally cheat. In fact, most men, if approached to actually follow through with someone they have been flirting with, will chicken out. The thought of being with someone new is exciting, but men are logical. If they have a good thing going with you, they aren’t just going to give that up for a stranger.

The best way to capture a guy with a wandering eye is to let your eye wander with his.

For example, my boyfriend and I were getting coffee. A beautiful young blond stood in line behind us. I watched my boyfriend shuffle and look away as if he didn’t want to get caught looking at her. I whispered in his ear that she was extremely beautiful and I saw her too. Instantly, he was put at ease and he didn’t turn to look at her again. I put a name on what he was thinking and he settled down.

My boyfriend is extremely attractive and I have watched women flirt with him right in front of me. What do I do? I flirt with the woman who is flirting with my man. This can really throw some of the ill-intentioned ladies off his trail. Basically, if you join forces with the woman flirting, you have a better chance of keeping your man close. If you complain and act jealous, he will stray for sure. Act like it doesn’t bother you. Trust your boyfriend unless he gives you a reason not to. Just like women, men like a little attention as well. As long as the attention is harmless, give your guy the benefit of a doubt and let him feel like a stud every once in awhile.

The other side of the coin is the dirtbag. They are out there and they are actually pretty easy to spot. In my next article I will discuss the warning signs of a the dirtbag.


Source by Dawn Christie

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